Sonke sinqwenela ukuba umhlaba ugcwele abalungileyo, abantu abanovelwano, ngeqondo eliphezulu le uvelwano kwaye unesisa, ukuba siqhutywa bububi, umona okanye ukubawa. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko sinokubona imihla ngemihla kwiindaba, kumaphephandaba, esitratweni, kwindawo ekufutshane nathi ngamanye amaxesha, ngelishwa oku akunjalo. Ewe kuyinyani, okanye ubuncinci yile nto sifuna ukuyikholelwa, baninzi abantu abalungileyo kunababi, kodwa eyokugqibela ikwakhona, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, umonakalo abawenzayo mkhulu kakhulu, ubuhlungu kwaye awunakulungiswa.
Ewe, namhlanje sikuzisa inqaku elungiselelwe ngokukodwa abafundisi-ntsapho, oomama nootata, ngakumbi kwezi zimbini zokugqibela. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni izitshixo zokufundisa abantwana abalungileyo, apho iingcali zengqondo zeHarvard University ziye zacebisa ukuba uzilandele, ukwindawo elungileyo. Akukho mntu wathi ukufundisa kwakulula, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu.
Indlela yokukhulisa abantwana / abantwana abalungileyo
La ngamanqaku esinokuthi singahlawuli ngokukodwa kuwo kuba abonakala ecace gca kuthi, kodwa xa ezi zitshixo zintlanu zidityanisiwe, zenza i-cocktail efanelekileyo yonyana wethu, umfundi, umtshana, ukuba abe ngumntu olungileyo ngomso:
- Chitha ixesha nabantwana bakho: Yinto esingafanele nokuba siyithethe. Ukuba sinabantwana kukuba nexesha lokubakhathalela. Kuyinyani ukuba kuxhomekeke kweliphi ilizwe, uxolelwaniso losapho alukho mva kumaxesha akhoyo kwaye nomsebenzi ungasusa ixesha lethu elininzi, kodwa rhoqo, yonke imihla, kufuneka sifumane ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuchitha nabantwana bethu.
- Thetha naye kwaye unxibelelane naye rhoqo: Unxibelelwano sisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano, ke oko bekungayi kuba kuncinci nabantwana bethu. Kuya kufuneka sikhathalele izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe, into oyifunayo, nokhathalelayo. Yiba nomdla wokuthetha nomntwana wakho kwaye kwangaxeshanye umamele iingcebiso zakhe. Abantwana kufuneka bazive bekhathalelwe.
- Bonisa umntwana wakho indlela yokusombulula ingxaki ngaphandle kokugxininisa kwiziphumo: Kuya kukunika amandla okuhlalutya nokusombulula iingxaki kodwa ungazisombululi ngokwakho njengomzali. Kuya kufuneka umvumele ukuba afumane yonke into xa ejongene nobunzima: ukusuka kwimvakalelo yokudana yokungayifumani okokuqala, ukuya eluvuyweni lokuba wakwenza yedwa kwaye engancediswa. Ewe hlala ecaleni kwakhe kwaye umcebise.
- Kuya kufuneka ubonise ukubonga komntwana wakho rhoqo: Xa ndimnika umsebenzi aza kuwenza aze awenze, mbulele ngawo. Ukuziva unombulelo kumntu omdala kuya kubenza bazive beluncedo kwaye benesisa kwabanye, ke baya kunceda rhoqo ngakumbi kwaye babonakalise ubumbano ngakumbi.
- Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba babe nembono ebanzi kuyo yonke into: Oku kwenziwa ngokumfundisa ukumamela, ukumfundisa ukunxibelelana, ukumenza abone ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke into emnyama okanye emhlophe, kodwa kufuneka ibhalansi ethile ifumaneke ngokuxhomekeke kwizinto, njl.
Ukuba ulandela ezi zikhokelo zintlanu okanye amaqhosha, umntwana wakho uya kuba nakho ukukhula akonwabile kwaye abe ngumntu onoxanduva, onenkathalo nokhathalayo.