Ithemba Ligama elinamandla kunye neemvakalelo ezinamandla ngakumbi. Ngaba usalikhumbula ixesha ebomini bakho apho waziva ukhuselekile? Umzuzu xa wawuziva ungenakunqandwa ... ngaphezulu kwehlabathi? Ngoku khawufane ucinge ukuba ubunokuziva ngale ndlela rhoqo. Oko kuya kuba nayiphi impembelelo kwimpilo nakwintlalo-ntle yakho, kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi, okanye kubudlelwane bakho?
Xa uziva uzithembile ungawasebenzisa amathuba anokuvela ebomini, Uyakwazi ukuthatha umngcipheko kwaye wenze olo tshintsho ebomini bakho. Ubomi buhamba kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuzithemba ngakumbi ukufezekisa loo mandla abalulekileyo kuhambo esinalo sonke: ubomi.
Sonke sinako ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwethu, kuba sele ingaphakathi kuwe kwaye ufuna kuphela iindlela ezimbalwa zokuyifumana.
Kutheni abanye abantu bengenathemba
Ukungazithembi kunokuba nezizathu ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi, ekukhuleni kwakho, abazali bakho bathi umsebenzi othile uphumile kwiligi kwaye ngekhe uwenze. Okanye mhlawumbi unenkqubo yenkolelo ethi 'andinakuze ndiqale ishishini lam, andingomrhwebi'. Mhlawumbi unamava amabi avule umnyango wokungazithembi ungene. Okanye mhlawumbi ukugxeka kwakho ngaphakathi kukuxelela 'ngekhe' okanye 'awonelanga'.
Mhlawumbi nawe uzithelekisa kakhulu nabanye abantu. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ebomini bakho kukho izinto ezingahambi kakuhle. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba utyhubela kumaxesha okuzithemba kodwa okwethutyana.
Indlela yokuzithemba ngakumbi kuwe
Abantu abazithembileyo bayakholelwa kubo kwaye banengqondo entle. Abantu abangazithembanga, kwelinye icala, abazithembi kwaye baziva bengakhuselekanga ngeziqu zabo. Ukuba uqala ukusebenza ukonyusa ukuzithemba kwakho ngendlela eyaziyo, uya kuqala ukuqaphela utshintsho olulungileyo ebomini bakho, bobabini kunye nomsebenzi. Fumanisa indlela onokuyonyusa ngayo ukuzithemba kwakho
Thetha ngokungqalileyo
Uphi ukungazithembi? Uziva nini ungathandabuzi ngawe? Ucinga ukuba ubuchule bakho bukukhawulela phi? Ngaba ungathanda ukuzithemba phi? Nje ukuba ucacise, ayizukubonakala iyinto enkulu kakhulu, kuba uya kuba nento ebambekayo onokuyenza.
Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuzithemba ukuphuma ngokwakho kwaye uqale ishishini elitsha? Okanye mhlawumbi ungathanda ukubuyela esikolweni ukuze ufumane isidanga obusoloko ufuna? Tkwangaxeshanye ungathanda ukuba nokuzithemba ukuya kukhenketho okanye uhambo obukade ucinga ngalo kangangexesha elithile.
Fumanisa ukuba yintoni ekunika ukuzithemba
Le yeyomntu, iya kwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye. Akukho bungakanani bobukhulu obufanayo-yonke indlela yokuthembela kwaye yintoni esebenzayo enye ayizukuhlala isebenza komnye. Ungafumanisa njani ukuba yintoni ekunika ukuzithemba? Cinga amaxesha ambalwa ebomini bakho xa uziva uzithembile. Khangela ukuba ngawaphi amaxesha akwenza uzive ulungile, kuba yile nto ikunika ukuzithemba kunye namandla owadingayo. Ngaba yayiyindawo owawukuyo? Into owawuyenza? Uziva njani? Okukhona ucacisa malunga noku, kuya kuba lula ukufikelela xa uyifuna.
Nyaniseka kuwe
Enye yeendlela eziqinisekileyo zokuphulukana nokuzithemba kukuzama ukuba ngomnye umntu. Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokwakha ukuzithemba kwakho? Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho. Xa uzama ukuba ngulomntu ungeyiyo, lonke icandelo lakho liyala. Awufani nabanye ... nguwe. Kwaye okukhona unokuziqonda ukuba ungubani kwaye uxabise ntoni, kokukhona uya kuba namandla. Xa uhamba kude nobani, ulahlekelwa kukuzithemba kuba "ayinguwe nje." Cinga ngento eyenzayo kuwe, ngokukodwa eyakho. Yibhale. Cinga ngento oyixabisileyo nento ebalulekileyo kuwe. Yibhale phantsi… yiyo loo nto eza kwenza ukuba uhlale unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho.
Yeka ukuzithelekisa
Akukho nto isusa ukuzithemba kwakho ngaphezu kokuzithelekisa nabanye. Ingakumbi ngoku, ngemidiya yoluntu kunye nethuba elihle lokuzigweba ngokuchasene nabanye abaninzi! Ukunqongophala kokuzithemba kuvela kwisithuba apho uzibona khona kunye nalapho ucinga ukuba kufanele ukuba ubekhona.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba ulungiselela ukwenza intetho entle kwaye uzithenge ngezona zithethi zibalaseleyo emhlabeni, ungaziva uphantsi ngokuqinisekileyo! Yeka ukuzithelekisa nabanye. Ukuba usaziva isidingo esingxamisekileyo sokuzithelekisa, soloko usenza nesiqu sakho. Ilinganisa ukuba ufike kude kangakanani, uphuculo lwakho, uloyiso kunye nempumelelo yakho.