Sonke sike saba nokuvimba kwengqondo ngesikhathi esithile empilweni futhi kuyinto ejwayelekile ... Okubalulekile ukuthi sikubone ngesikhathi futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, wazi ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani ukuze ubuyele esimweni somqondo esijwayelekile.
Uma ungazi kahle ukuthi yini ibhlokhi yengqondo, khona-ke sizochaza ukuthi kuyini, nokuthi yini okubaluleke kakhulu ... ukuyinqoba ngempumelelo!
Kuyini ukuvimba kwengqondo
Ukuvinjelwa kwengqondo kungachazwa njengesithiyo esingokwengqondo esivimbela abantu ekwenzeni ikhono elithile. Amabhulokhi engqondo angadideka kalula nokukhathazeka kokusebenza, njengoba womabili equkethe isimo esiyinselele esivela kwezemidlalo noma kwenye indawo ephoqa abantu ukuthi 'balwe'Ngokumelene nenkinga ebonakalayo, noma thatha 'indiza' futhi uvikele isimo.
Izikhubekiso zengqondo zenzeka njalo kwezemidlalo noma kwezinye izindawo, noma kunjalo, abaningi kungenzeka bangaboni ukuthi ziyenzeka, ngoba banamasu afanele okuzinqoba ngokushesha. Kodwa-ke, kwabanye abantu, ukuvinjelwa kwengqondo kungaba yinto ebavimbayo ukuthi bathuthuke emsebenzini wabo kanye / noma nentuthuko, okusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukuqonda impande yokuvinjelwa kwengqondo nokuthi ungakunqoba kanjani.
Kungani amabhlogo engqondo enzeka
Izici ezingaphansi ezichaza ukuthi kungani amabhlokhi engqondo enzeka kakhulu ancike ekwehlukaneni komuntu ngamunye, njengezitayela zendlela imibono nezinga lokuzethemba nobulukhuni bengqondo.
Izitayela zokugxila
Abantu bangagxila ngaphakathi noma ngaphandle noma bagxile noma inhlanganisela yakho kokubili. Lapho umuntu egxile ngaphakathi afinyelela ekusebenzeni kwabo okuphezulu lapho egxila ngokuqhubekayo futhi egxilile esimisweni sokuziqeqesha noma emsebenzini, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ngenkathi abantu abagxile ngaphandle besebenza kangcono lapho begxila kuphela kulokho abakwenzayo lapho besephuzwini. isikhathi sokuziqeqesha, ukuzivocavoca noma ukusebenza, ukunciphisa amathuba okuba nokukhathazeka kokuncintisana okuvelayo.
Ungacabanga ukuthi abantu abagxile ngaphandle bangahle bathambekele kakhulu ekuvinjelweni kwengqondo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi izici zomdlalo noma zokuvivinya umzimba zibucayi, futhi kaningi ngokungalungile, ukucabanga ngokweqile, okuholela ekusebenzeni okuphoqelelwe nokungekhona okwemvelo.
Ukuqina kwengqondo, ukusebenza kahle kwakho, kanye nemibono emibi
UJones (2002) uchaze amandla engqondo njengenzuzo yengqondo, kungaba eyemvelo noma ethuthukile, eyenza ikwazi ukubhekana nezidingo eziningi zezemidlalo futhi hlala ugxile kakhudlwana, uzimisele futhi uzethembe ngaphansi kwengcindezi.
Abantu abanesilinganiso esanele sokuqina kwengqondo bakholelwa ukuthi bathatha indlela yokuziphatha maqondana nemidlalo nezinselelo zempilo. Ngakho-ke, lokhu kuzonciphisa amathuba okuthuthukisa ukuvimba kwengqondo, ngoba yonke into izobonwa njengenselelo ephikisana nosongo olunganciphisa ukuzikhandla.
Kodwa-ke, abantu abangenakho ukuzikhandla kanye / noma nokuntuleka kokuqina kwengqondo bangaba namathuba amaningi okuba bakhule ngokwengqondo. Futhi, uma ifomu lokuvinjelwa kwengqondo liba khona, kuzoba nethuba elikhulu lokugwema inselelo ngokuphelele. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukungazithembi kuhambisana nokuzethemba okuphansi. Ngakho-ke, lAmabhulokhi engqondo aveza i-conundrum efanayo: ukungakwazi ukugxila, ukucabanga, noma ukucabanga ngokucacile, okuholela ekushodeni kwedrayivu.
Ungakunqoba kanjani ukuvimba kwengqondo
Ukuze unqobe ukuvinjelwa kwengqondo, sikucebisa okulandelayo:
- Lawula izwe lakho. Qonda ukuthi ungayinqoba kanjani futhi ubuyise umfutho wakho. Vumelanisa ingqondo nomzimba wakho ukuthola ibhalansi. Izikhathi eziningi, ukwenza umsebenzi omncane kudinga ukwephula ibhulokhi yengqondo. Ekugcineni, izwe lakho luhlaka osebenza kulo empilweni, ngakho-ke lusebenzise ngokunenzuzo ukuvula ukucabanga kwakho.
- Gxila esikhathini samanje. Uma uhlangabezana nokuvinjwa kwengqondo, kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okukuhluphayo esikhathini esedlule. Ngezinye izikhathi, kungaba ukukhathazeka ngekusasa okwenza ukuthi ukhathazeke futhi uvimbe ukucabanga kwakho. Ukuthola ukudonsa okuthile, thatha imizuzu embalwa ukuhlala phansi ucabange ngomzuzu wamanje. Gxila ekuphefumuleni kwakho kuze kube yilapho ingqondo yakho yehla. Kulesi simo esinokuthula, ungacabanga ngokucacile futhi uthole amasu wokuqalisa ukuxazulula izinkinga.
- Hlela ingqondo yakho. Kufanele uhlele kabusha ingqondo yakho ukuze ube nokugxila okudingayo ukuze uthuthukise umuzwa wakho wokucabanga. Bhala ngqo okucabangayo nokuzizwa kwakho. Lapho kuvela izinkolelo ezizilinganisela, zijwayeze ukufaka izinkolelo ezinika amandla. Bona ngeso lengqondo lapho ufuna ukuya khona futhi uzungeze nabantu nemvelo evumelana nokucaca ... yehlisa umoya endaweni okuyo futhi uzothola ukuzola ngaphakathi kwakho nokulawula kwengqondo yakho!