Ayothusi into yokuba, xa kufuneka sijongane nohlobo oluthile lovavanyo okanye uviwo, siziva sincinci uxinzelelo okomzuzwana. Sele sitsho ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo, ke awunakukhathazeka. Kuyinyani ukuba kukho iimeko ezizodwa apho imithambo-luvo yakho inokudlala ngobuqhetseba kuwe, ke kwezo meko kuya kufuneka ulumke.
Nangona kunjalo, masiqonde ngqo kwinqanaba. Kwaye ke, ngokwezigqibo ezithathwe kwisifundo, abantwana bahlelwa njenge bulumko Isenokuba ngabo abaya kuthwala uxinzelelo olona lubi, ngexesha apho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zovavanyo zilindele ngaphambili. Ngamanye amagama, xa kufuneka benze into, kulula ukuba umthwalo kunye nexhala.
Le yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye ayothusi. Xa umntwana efikelela kwinqanaba elithile lobukrelekrele, uye aye ukuba nexhala ngakumbi kuba ingqondo yakho, ngokuqhubekeka kwezibakala ngenye indlela, ikwazisa ukuba kuya kufuneka ukhathazeke. Nangona kunjalo, yinto enokulawulwa ngumntwana ngokwakhe, nokuba kungokufunda okanye ngokubeka ugxininiso olukhulu kwimeko leyo.
Masiqhubeke kwimeko eyahlukileyo. Ukuba umntwana akakho krelekrele (ngaphandle kokuzibaxa izinto) unakho nyamezela bhetele ukukhathazeka, ukuhlala uzolile ngala maxesha sixoxa ngawo. Siphinda ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo, kuba ingqondo ngokwayo inoxanduva lokunika ezo "ntshukumisa" zenkxalabo. Njengokuba kukho ubukrelekrele obuninzi, umntwana uya kuqaphela izinto ezininzi. Kwaye oko kuyakuphinda kwenziwe kwixesha elizayo.