Njengokuba iKrisimesi isondele, kunokwenzeka ukuba emsebenzini wakho ube "ngumlingane ongabonakaliyo" kwaye uyakuba nerafi yokunika umntu isipho esincinci (nemali emiselweyo oyichithe emntwini ngamnye) indlela engahleliwe. Ngokufanelekileyo, Kuya kufuneka unike umntu osebenza naye emsebenzini wakho, nokuba uyamthanda okanye awumthandi.
Zizipho ezingaziwayo, zihlala zitshiphu kwaye ziyonwabisa xa kunikwa isidlo sangokuhlwa seKrisimesi okanye isidlo sasemini. Kubalulekile ukuba wonke umntu abekhona ukuze wonke umntu abe nezipho zakhe. Usenokuba sele uthathe inxaxheba kula mava komnye umsebenzi, kodwa xa ukwingqesho entsha ngamava ukusukela ngoko nabantu abakungqongileyo abafani.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, sineengcebiso kunye neengcebiso zendlela yokuzigcina sonwabile kweli xesha leziyunguma. Ukuthengela izipho lixesha elihle lokusebenzisa izakhono zakho zokusombulula iingxaki kwaye wonwabele oogxa bakho abatsha kwindima yakho yomsebenzi!
"Iqabane elingabonakaliyo" kufuneka lihlale livuya
Ukuba awuzive ngathi unganakho ukufaka isandla ngenxa yeenkolelo, ezoqoqosho, okanye ixhala, ke thetha nomphathi wakho malunga neenkxalabo zakho. Kuyakubakho indlela yokwenza ukuba ukhululeke, okanye banokwenza into eyahlukileyo ukuze uthathe inxaxheba kwiminyhadala yamaxesha onokuthi ucinge ukuba ungayenza. Ngalo lonke ixesha akufanele uzive unyanzelwa ukuba wenze into ongayifuniyo. Nangona sifuna ukukunika iingcebiso, Ukuba uyakwenza oko, uya kuba nakho ukusondela kubahlobo bakho kwaye ungonwaba.
Ungasikhetha njani isipho esifanelekileyo "kwiqabane elingenakwenzeka"
Ke bakunike igama lakho ... ufumene bani? (Shh, yimfihlo!) Qinisekisa ukuba uyazi uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali, nasiphi na isihloko ukuba ngaba isihloko sikhethiwe, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ngumhla obekiweyo! Emva koko ungaphoswa ngala macebiso alandelayo ukuze isipho sikhethwe kakhulu ngumntu okuchukumisileyo.
- Sukoyika. Esi sipho asizukusikhuthaza (nokuba sikhulu esikhulu), ke ungakhathazeki kwaye ungazami ukucinga ngaphezulu.
- Cinga ngobulumko. Wazi ntoni ngomntu? Cinga ngento anokuyithanda. Unaso isilwanyana sasekhaya? Cinga ngayo nayiphi na into enokuba luncedo ukuyazi. Ngaba uxabisa ubisi? Ukuba kunjalo, azikho iitshokholethi. Jonga ukutya okanye iimveliso zobuhle! Ukuba uziva uvaliwe kwaye ungazi ukuba uzakunika ntoni loo mntu, ke uwele umgca uthethe nomhlobo wabo ukuze alunge.
- Yiba sisilumko. Nokuba umazi kangakanani umntu, izipho kunokuba nzima ukuziqonda xa beqhula. Izipho ezihlazo, hlala kude kuzo… aziyi kuba lukhetho olufanelekileyo konke konke.
Qaphela: Ngelixa isipho sinokuthi singakhubekisi umntu omnika sona, awufuni kukhathaza okanye ukhubekise omnye umntu etafileni.
Yintoni oza kuyithenga?
Ukuba ulahlekile izimvo, ungaphoswa koku kulandelayo:
- Imidlalo. Imidlalo ilungile kuba inokusetyenziswa ethekweni ukudibanisa abantu kunye kwaye bonwabe.
- Izinto zokubhala. Sukuchitha imali eninzi kwizinto ezingeyomfuneko. Ijenali eyenzelwe wena okanye ikhalenda yonyaka olandelayo yingcinga elungileyo. Ibhanki yamandla yeselfowuni ihlala ingumbono olungileyo. Isakhelo somfanekiso okanye isityalo sokuqaqambisa indawo yakho yokusebenza ikwayimbono elungileyo, nokuba awunazandla ziluhlaza, icactus yeplastikhi inokujongeka iyinyani kwaye ilingane nohlahlo-lwabiwo mali.
- Iincwadi. Ukuba uyazi ukuba banomdla okanye umdla, thenga incwadi enxulumene nayo.
- Amava. Amavawutsha amava anokuba ngumbono olungileyo.
- Masonwabe. Ukuba ufuna ukujonga inqaku elonwabisayo onokuthi, kodwa okubalulekileyo kukuba ayisiyonto yokwenza iintloni nakubani na.
Okokugqibela, ungaphonononga izibonelelo zoncedo zasekuhlaleni ukwenza umnikelo egameni lomntu. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba uyazi ukuba bayazithanda izizathu ezithile. Thenga nakwiivenkile zesisa zasekuhlaleni nawe, ukuba unako… okona kubalulekileyo kukumangaliswa. Umntu owenza isipho. Nokuba awumthandi loo mntu, mhlawumbi ukuba ufumanisa ngakumbi ngaye ungaphucula umbono onawo ngaye.