Kubonakala ngathi ayithintelwanga ngokwasentlalweni kwaye ukuba uyayenza ukrwada / a, kodwa akukho nto iqhubeka kwinyani. Umgaqo osisiseko wokuqinisekisa ukuba uphumelele kukwazi ukuba ungathi hayi ngaphandle kokulimaza iimvakalelo zabanye.. Ukuthi ewe rhoqo kuyo yonke into kwaye wonke umntu uyityhefu kwaye akanampilo, into enempilo kukuthi 'hayi' xa kukho imfuneko.
Xa uqala ukuhlengahlengisa izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwaye uqala ukuthi hayi kwizinto ezinganyanzelekanga okanye ezingakukhathalelanga, uya kuzinceda ekuvuseleleni amandla akho kwaye ube nakho ngokwaneleyo ukuba ukwazi ukutyala ixesha lakho kwiindawo zobomi bakho umba. A) Ewe, Ngaphandle kokuyiqonda, uya kuba namandla ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakho, umsebenzi wakho kunye nokuzikhathalela.
Zininzi izibonelelo zempilo zokuba hayi, kodwa kutheni usithi hayi? Ungayiphatha njani indlela abantu abasabela ngayo emva kwento oyithethileyo? Xa ucinga ngale nto kuxa ububona ubunyani bokuthi hayi, kwaye indlela oza kuzithatha ngayo izinto ukuze uphile ngaphandle kokuba wenzakalise mntu.
Kutheni usithi hayi
Ukuba uhlala uthi ewe kuyo yonke into, ubabalo noxanduva lwabanye luya kukutshisa ngokwasemphefumlweni, ayisiyonto intle leyo kwaye iyadinisa. Xa usithi ewe kuyo yonke into, ngekhe ukwazi ukutyala amandla akho ebantwini nakwizinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene.
Xa uziva udiniwe okanye udiniwe zizinto ezenzeka kuwe, ngekhe ukwazi ukubeka owona mzamo wakho emsebenzini okanye kubudlelwane. Ukuthi hayi kwimisebenzi yasekuhlaleni kunye nezinto ezintle ongaqhelekanga zithetha ukuthi ewe ukubeka ixesha lakho namandla akho kubudlelwane bakho. umsebenzi wakho kunye nesiqu sakho. Ukuthi awusekho wena ngokwakho kunabanye yindlela yokuzikhathalela ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo nangokomoya.
Ungaziva unetyala ekuqaleni, kodwa umzimba wakho uyakubulela kamva. Ukuthi akuyomfuneko xa sele unoxanduva kunye nezinto ekufuneka uzenzile ... Ukuba yinto efuna izakhono zakho, ukuyinika abanye abantu kuthetha ukunika kakhulu abanye ngaphandle kokufumana mbuyekezo: kuyadinisa.
Kufuneka uthi hayi nini
Ukuthi ayinazibonelelo zexesha elide kwimpilo yakho, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uthi hayi ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukuba zininzi izinto ocelwe ukuba uzenze, kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukwazi lonke uxanduva lwakho okanye imisebenzi yokwenyani. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqale ukunika abanye umsebenzi ekhaya nasemsebenzini okanye kwizifundo, uthi hayi kwizinto ezingangqinelaniyo kwaye ufunde ukubeka phambili eyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyakufuneka uthi ewe, kodwa iyakuba kuphela malunga noxanduva olongezelelekileyo okanye izinto ezingabalulekanga kangako kwaye akunamsebenzi ukuba awuthi hayi. Umzekelo, ukuba uthi ewe kwimisitho ebalulekileyo yezentlalo enjengemihla yokuzalwa, imitshato okanye imingcwabo… kufuneka ubenoxanduva kwilizwi lakho kwaye uzimase. Kodwa ungathi hayi kwiminyhadala yoluntu enje ngeentlanganiso zabantu ongaziva ngathi ungabona ngaphandle, umzekelo, umsebenzi.
Ukuguqula ezinye izimemo zokutya kunye nabahlobo ozibona veki nganye kwenye into onokuyenza, ukuze ujonge amandla akho kuwe okanye kusapho lwakho. Ukuba ungenisa, akufuneki uzive ungalunganga ngokwenza oko. Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba nexesha lakho kunye nokwenza ezinye izinto ezikubiza amandla. Uya kuziva ungcono ngawe kunye nehlabathi liphela.
Indlela yokuphatha ubudlelwane obunobundlobongela
Asinguye wonke umntu othatha 'hayi' ngempendulo. Akululanga ukugcina ubushushu xa sifumana ukugxekwa okungenamvakalelo kunye nezimvo ezivela kubantu esibathandayo xa bengavumelani nezigqibo esizenzayo. Kodwa kukho indlela elungileyo nengalunganga yokusabela. Kuxhomekeka kwindlela ohlangabezana ngayo nokusabela kwabo, iziphumo zinokwahluka kakhulu.
Eyona ndlela imbi yokusingatha impendulo kukuvuma amabango omnye umntu, kuba konke oya kukwenza kukwenza ingxaki ibe nkulu kunokuba kufanelekile. Sukwenza abanye abantu baqonde ukuba uya kuhlala ukulungele ukwenza okuhle ngenxa yokuba bengakuhloneli befuna ukuthi hayi. Le yindlela eqinisekileyo yokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho naloo mntu.
Eyona ndlela yokujongana nokuphendula kukuba novelwano kwaye uluthumele kwabanye abantu, ubancede besendleleni kodwa bemke xa sibona kufanelekile. Ngele ndlela, incoko inceda omabini amaqela ngokwenza ubudlelwane bokuwina kwaye kuveliswa iziphumo ezilungileyo endaweni yeemvakalelo ezimbi.