Kubomi bakho, kwizifundo zakho okanye emsebenzini wakho ... Ingqondo ethembekileyo iya kukukhokelela ekubeni ukwazi ukonwabela ubomi obulungileyo. Ubomi bugcwele iimeko ezininzi kunye namava, ezinye zazo zivusa iimvakalelo kunye neengcinga, ngelixa ezinye zinokukwenza uzive ungathandeki ngaphakathi. Kodwa Kuya kuxhomekeka kuwe ukuba uvumele ukungakhathali ukuba kukhule ngaphakathi kwakho okanye ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba unokukucinezela ngokupheleleyo.
Xa ingqondo yakho igcwele iingcinga ezintle, uya kuba ngumntu onokwazi ngakumbi ukulawula iingxaki kunye nezithintelo ngaphandle koxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo. Amandla okucinga ngokuqinisekileyo makhulu kangangokuba anokuguqula ubomi bakho obubonakala bube lusizi bube bobonwabisayo.
Ukungakhathali kubulala imiphefumlo yabantu ngokuthe ngcembe, kwelinye icala, ukuzithemba kuyasiphilisa. Kodwa umbuzo ngulo, ubazi njani ubugcisa bokucinga kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo? Ungaqonda njani xa unegatative? Ukuba uhlala uxhalabile, ungonwabanga, uxinezelekile okanye udiniwe, kuya kufuneka uthabathe amanyathelo ukuze ingqondo yakho ibe ntle kwaye wakuba ubeke ecaleni ukungakhathali okuninzi, ubomi bakho bungcono, kuzo zonke iinkalo.
Sukutyiwa ziingcinga ezingakhiyo
UCharles Swindoll wayekhe wathi: "Ubomi yi-10% kwenzeka ntoni kuwe kunye ne-90% yokuphendula kwakho kubo"… kwaye kunjalo. Iingcamango ezimbi zikhokelela kwizenzo ezimbi. Ngamanye amagama, xa kulindelwe okona kubi kwaye ubona kuphela okungalunganga kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kwenzeka okona kubi. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba wenze into engalunganga xa ingqondo yakho igcwele amawaka eengcinga ezimbi kunye noqikelelo olungenantsingiselo.
Ungaziphepha njani iingcinga ezingakhiyo
Ukuthintela iingcinga ezimbi ekutyeni, ungaqala ngokushicilela, ucamngce, okanye utshintshe izinto ezithile (okanye abantu) zobomi bakho ezibangela iingcinga ezimbi. Ukugcina ingqondo yakho ixakekile kuyakwenza ukuba ezo ngcinga zihambe. Umzekelo, ukuba ulindele iziphumo zeprojekthi ebalulekileyo okanye uviwo, ungabhala, uthunge, uzobe okanye wenze naluphi na uhlobo lobugcisa oluza kukugcina wonwabile kwaye awuyi kucinga kakhulu. Gxila kuzo zonke izinto ezilungileyo ezenzekayo ezikungqongileyo kunye nezinto onombulelo ngazo. Ingqondo yakho iya kuqala ukuba nethemba.
Phila ngoku
Izolo lidlulileyo kwaye awunakukutshintsha okwenzekileyo kwaye nekamva aliqinisekanga. Kuya kufuneka unuke okwenzekayo apha ngoku. Beka ecaleni elidlulileyo kwaye ungakhathazeki kangako ngekamva. Ukuphila okwangoku sisitshixo solonwabo kunye nokuhlala ixesha elide kunye nolwaneliseko.
Iingcinga ezintle rhoqo kusasa
Kananjalo, ukuba ntsasa nganye uvuka ngeengcinga ezintle, ezinje ngala: 'namhlanje ndiza konwaba nokuba kwenzeka ntoni', okanye 'Ndimhle kwaye ndikrelekrele kakhulu', uyakube udala iingcinga ezintle ezingqondweni zakho ezizakwenza uziva ubhetele. Ayibobudenge obu okanye ubu-narcissism, luphawu lwengqondo elungileyo.
Unabantu abakungqongileyo
Kwakhona, ukuze ube nengqondo elungileyo kufuneka uzingqonge ngabantu abaqinisekileyo. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ungumntu odumileyo okanye ongenisayo. Inani labantu abakungqongileyo alibalulekanga, kodwa umgangatho wabo ubalulekile. Abantu abangenanto bayakwenza ukholelwe uqinisekiso olubi, iimbono ezimbi ngobomi… Bazala kuphela ukunganaki kwaye ngekhe kubuphucule ubomi bakho konke konke. Hlala kude nabantu abakwenza uzive ungalunganga, abangakuphatheli nto, okanye abakunika amandla amabi. Kungcono ukuba unabahlobo abambalwa abaxabisekileyo kunabaninzi kwaye abangabangeli galelo kuwe.
Yoyisa imiceli mngeni kunye nemiqobo ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo
Ukufunda ukuguqula iimpazamo, ukusilela, kunye nexesha elibuhlungu kwizifundo zobomi ezixabisekileyo kubalulekile ekuguquleni ingqondo yakho ibe yeyakhayo. Yamkela lonke uloyiko lwakho kwaye woyise ezo zikuthintela ukuba uphile ubomi obupheleleyo. Kuyalinga ukuthi, 'andinakuyenza,' kwaye uchithe usuku ulila kwaye ukhalaza ngendlela ekungekho sikweni ngayo xa ume iingalo zakho ziwele. Kodwa khumbula, Le yindlela engalunganga kwaye iingxaki azinakuze zizisombulule.
Ukuqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuze uhlale unethemba kwaye wenze into eyimfuneko kuyimpilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo, ngaphandle kwako konke ukunganyaniseki okukhoyo kwihlabathi. Ukuba uthathela ingqalelo oku, uya kuphila ngcono.