Sonke siyathanda ukuphupha, ndiqinisekile ukuba ayisiyiyo okokuqala ukuba ujonge ngaphandle kwefestile okanye uvale amehlo kwaye uqale ukuphupha ngekamva lakho. Mhlawumbi ucinga ngezinto ongathanda ukuba nazo ngenye imini. Kodwa yonke loo minqweno ingafezekiseka ukuba uyakwazi ukukhetha iinjongo ezifanelekileyo, enye emva komnye ude ufikelele kwiinjongo zakho.
Amaphupha akufuneki ahlale amaphupha kuphela, anokuzaliseka ... kodwa kufuneka ngokwenene ufune ukuba azaliseke. Ukuba unamaphupha uya kulwela ukuzifumana kwaye indlela ekufuneka uyidlulile iya kuba yindlela apho uya konwaba kuyo yonke imizuzu. Uyakuva ulonwabo kwaye uzokwazi ukufikelela kwiinjongo zakho. Kodwa ukufezekisa konke oku kufuneka ufunde ukuseta iinjongo, ezilula ... kodwa zisebenza.
Landela izikhokelo
Ukuba ufuna ukuseta iinjongo, kuya kufuneka usebenzise ezinye izikhokelo ukukhumbula ukuba ungazenza njani kwaye uzenze zikulungele njani. Ukugxila kwiinjongo zakho ezilula kodwa ngaxeshanye zinokwenzeka kwaye zinokufezekiseka, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo la manqaku alandelayo:
- Thetha ngokungqalileyo. Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba iinjongo zakho azizizo iinqaba ezisemoyeni. Kuya kufuneka ube unemibono ekhonkrithi malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza kwaye ngqo apho ufuna ukuya khona. Iinjongo kufuneka zibe nomkhombandlela ophathekayo ukuze ukwazi ukuzizalisekisa.
- Linganisa iinjongo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ucacise malunga neenjongo zakho njengokufunda indlela yokuzilinganisela ukuze wazi ukuba wenza inkqubela phambili okanye ukuba kukho into ekufuneka iphuculwe ukuze uqhubeke kwaye ufikelele ngempumelelo apho ufuna ukuya khona. Kwakhona, xa uqala ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci unokuzinika umvuzo omncinci.
- Musa ukuzibekela usukelo ukuba awukafikeleli kolo lokuqala. Ukuze uhambelane kwaye uhambelane neenjongo zakho, kufuneka uhambe ngokulandelelana. Kuqala kufuneka ufezekise iinjongo zokuqala kwaye kancinci kancinci ukuqala ukubeka ezintsha. Ukuba uzibekela iinjongo ezininzi ekunzima ukuzifezekisa, uyakukhathazeka kwaye ucinge ukuba awunakho ukwenza xa ukwazi ukufikelela yonke into obeka kuyo.
- Iinjongo ezinokufikelelwa. Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba iinjongo zakho ziyinyani kwaye ungazifezekisa. Cinga malunga nokuba ingaba le nto uyifunayo iyinyani na kanye oyifunayo kwaye ungayifumana. Kodwa khumbula: "ukufuna ngamandla."
- Zibekele ixesha elibekiweyo. Kubalulekile ukuseta ixesha elibekiweyo kwiinjongo ezincinci ukuze usete iinjongo ezinkulu, zexesha elide. Ukuba awubeki xesha limiselweyo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyakuphela usiva into eyaziwayo 'ngengomso' kwaye uqale ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto ezibalulekileyo. Kodwa uyakufika umhla xa uphelelwa ngomso kwaye uya kuzisola ngokungazenzi izinto ngokwahlukileyo ngexa ubuzenzile.
Ukukhathazeka malunga neenjongo zakho
Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba iinjongo zakho zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwaye ufuna ukuziphumeza (ngenene). Zininzi iindlela zokufumanisa ukuba iinjongo osenazo engqondweni zezona zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe (okanye hayi). Yazi ukuba ngaba ezo njongo zibalulekile kuwe okanye ukuba ucinga ukuba zibalulekile kuba uluntu lukwenza ukholelwe ukuba zibalulekile. Sukukhuthazeka "kufanele ufumane" kwaye ucinga ukuba injongo iya kuba yinyani kuphela ukuba uyafuna ukuyiphumeza. Cinga ngale njongo, kwaye ubone ukuba ucinga ukuba yinto "omele" ukuyenza okanye into "ofuna ukuyenza". Ngale ndlela unokuqinisekisa ukuba uziva ubandakanyekile kwaye awuzukufumana ubunzima ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuyiphumeza kwaye uyakufumana indlela yokuyifumana.
Bhala iinjongo zakho
Ukubhala iinjongo zakho kunokukunceda kakhulu. Ngokuyibhala uya kuziva ngathi uyazibophelela kubo kwaye uya kunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kwiinjongo zakho nganye, uzenze ukuba zibe nakho ukufikelela. Kwakhona, Ukuba uzibhala, awuyi kuzilibala kwaye unokongeza iinjongo ezinokufezekiseka kunye nekhonkrithi ukuba kukho imfuneko.
Kwakhona, ukuba ubonakalisa iinjongo zakho kumntu omthembileyo, unokuzikhuthaza kwaye wenze izinto zihambe ngcono. Isidima sakho, isigwebo sakho kunye nokukhuthazeka kwakho kuya kubeka esichengeni ngeenjongo zakho ezibhaliweyo kwaye ngokuzithetha ngokuvakalayo uya kuba nakho ukuzibona ngokulula, into eya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ikuncede uthathe amanyathelo okuqala.