Empilweni yakho yangasese, ezifundweni zakho noma emsebenzini wakho ... Ingqondo ethembekile izokuholela ekutheni ukwazi ukujabulela impilo enhle. Impilo ilayishwe izimo eziningi nokuhlangenwe nakho, ezinye zazo zivusa imizwa nemicabango emihle, kanti ezinye zingakwenza uzizwe unganaki ngaphakathi. Kepha Kuzoncika kuwe ukuthi uvumela lokho kukhathazeka kukhule ngaphakathi kuwe noma ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuthi ungakucindezela ngokuphelele.
Lapho ingqondo yakho igcwele imicabango emihle, uzoba ngumuntu osethubeni lokukwazi ukulawula kangcono izinkinga nezithiyo ngaphandle kwengcindezi noma ukukhathazeka. Amandla okucabanga okuhle makhulu kangangokuba angaguqula impilo yakho ebukeka ihlupheka ibe yinto ejabulisa kakhulu.
Ukunganaki kubulala imiphefumulo yabantu kancane kancane futhi esikhundleni salokho, ukuzethemba kuyasiphilisa. Kepha umbuzo uwukuthi, ulazi kanjani ikhono lokucabanga okuhle nesimo sengqondo esihle? Ungaqonda kanjani uma une-negativity? Uma uhlala ukhathazekile, unesimo esingesihle, ucindezelekile noma ukhathele, lapho-ke kufanele uthathe izinyathelo ezithile ukuze ingqondo yakho ibe nethemba nokuthi uma usubeke eceleni ukunganaki okungako, impilo yakho iba ngcono, kuzo zonke izici.
Ungadliwa yimicabango engemihle
UCharles Swindoll wake wathi: "Impilo ingu-10% okwenzeka kuwe kanye no-90% wokuphendula kwakho kuyo"… Futhi kunjalo. Imicabango engemihle iholela ezenzweni ezingezinhle. Ngamanye amagama, lapho kulindelwe okubi kakhulu futhi ubona okubi kuphela kunoma yisiphi isimo, kwenzeka okubi kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi wenze okungalungile lapho ingqondo yakho idliwe yizinkulungwane zemicabango emibi nokubikezela okungenamqondo.
Ungayigwema kanjani imicabango engemihle
Ukuvimbela imicabango emibi ukuthi ikuqede, ungaqala ngokushicilela, ngokuzindla, noma ngokushintsha izici ezithile (noma abantu) empilweni yakho ezibanga imicabango emibi. Ukugcina ingqondo yakho imatasa kuzokwenza leyo micabango ihambe. Isibonelo, uma ulinde umphumela wephrojekthi noma isivivinyo esibalulekile, ungabhala, uthunge, udwebe noma wenze noma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi wobuciko ozokugcina ujatshuliswa futhi ngeke ucabange kakhulu. Gxila kuzo zonke izinto ezinhle ezenzeka eduze kwakho nezinto ozibongayo. Ingqondo yakho izoqala ukuba nethemba ngokwengeziwe.
Phila manje
Izolo kudlule futhi awukwazi ukuguqula okwenzekile nekusasa alaziwa. Kufanele ujonge okwenzeka lapha namanje. Beka eceleni okwedlule futhi ungakhathazeki kangako ngekusasa. Ukuphila esikhathini samanje kuyisihluthulelo sempilo ejabule kakhulu futhi ende futhi enelisa kakhulu.
Imicabango emihle njalo ekuseni
Futhi, uma njalo ekuseni uvuka ngomcabango omuhle, njengokuthi: 'namuhla ngizojabula noma ngabe kwenzekani', noma 'ngimuhle futhi ngihlakaniphe kakhulu', uzobe udala imicabango emihle engqondweni yakho ezokwenza uzizwa ungcono. Lokhu akusikho ukuhlanya noma i-narcissism, kuwuphawu lomqondo ovumayo kuphela.
Yiba nabantu abahle abaseduze kwakho
Futhi, ukuze ube nomqondo oqondile kufanele uzungeze nabantu abahle. Akukhathalekile ukuthi uyi-extrovert noma uyisethulo. Inani labantu abakuzungezile alibalulekile, kodwa ikhwalithi yabo ibalulekile. Abantu ababi bazokwenza ukholwe ukuqinisekiswa okungekuhle, imibono engemihle ngempilo ... Bakhiqiza kuphela ukunganaki futhi ngeke kuthuthukise impilo yakho. Hlala kude nabantu abakwenza uzizwe kabi, abangakuletheli lutho, noma abakunikeza amandla amabi. Kungcono ukuthi unabangani abambalwa abakufanele ukudlula abaningi futhi abanganikeli ngalutho kuwe.
Nqoba izinselelo nezithiyo ngesimo sengqondo esihle
Ukufunda ukuthi ungaguqula kanjani amaphutha, ukwehluleka, nezikhathi ezibuhlungu zibe izifundo zokuphila eziyigugu kubalulekile ekuguquleni ingqondo yakho ibe yinto enhle. Yamukela konke ukwesaba kwakho futhi unqobe lokho okukuvimbela ukuthi uphile impilo ephelele. Kuyalinga ukuthi, 'Angikwazi ukukwenza,' bese uchitha usuku lonke ukhala futhi ukhononda ngokuthi konke akulungile ngenkathi umile izingalo zakho ziwele. Kepha khumbula, le yindlela engafanele futhi izinkinga azisoze zazixazulula.
Ukuqeqesha ubuchopho bakho ukuthi uhlale unethemba futhi wenze okuhle kuyadingeka empilweni yakho engokomzwelo, yize kukhona bonke ubuhlanya obukhohlisayo obukhona emhlabeni. Uma ukubheka lokhu, uzophila kangcono.