Sonke siyathanda ukuphupha, nginesiqiniseko sokuthi akusikho okokuqala ukuthi ubheke ewindini noma uvale amehlo bese uqala ukuphupha ngekusasa lakho. Mhlawumbe ucabanga ngezinto ongathanda ukubhekana nazo ngolunye usuku. Kepha zonke lezo zifiso zingagcwaliseka uma wazi ukuthi ungazikhetha kanjani izinhloso ezifanele, zilandelana uze ufinyelele kulowo nalowo mgomo wakho.
Amaphupho akudingeki ukuthi ahlale amaphupho kuphela, angagcwaliseka ... kepha kumele ufune ngempela ukuthi afezeke. Uma unamaphupho uzolwela ukuzithola futhi indlela okufanele uyidlule izoba yindlela lapho uzothokozela khona umzuzu nomzuzu. Uzozwa injabulo futhi uzokwazi nokufinyelela ezinhlosweni zakho. Kepha ukufeza konke lokhu udinga ukufunda ukuzibekela imigomo, elula ... kepha esebenzayo.
Landela imihlahlandlela ethile
Uma ufuna ukuzibekela imigomo, kufanele usebenzise izinkombandlela ezithile ukukhumbula ukuthi ungazifinyelela kanjani nokuthi ungazilungiselela kanjani. Ukugxila ezinhlosweni zakho ezilula kepha ngasikhathi sinye ziyenzeka futhi zingafinyeleleka, kufanele ubheke la maphuzu alandelayo:
- Yisho ngokuqondile. Kuzofanele uqiniseke ukuthi izinhloso zakho akuzona izinqaba ezisemoyeni. Kufanele ube nemibono ephathekayo yalokho ofuna ukukwenza nokuthi ufuna ukuya kuphi ngqo. Izinjongo kumele zibe nesiqondiso esikhonkolo ukuze zikwazi ukufezeka.
- Linganisa imigomo. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukucacisa ngezinhloso zakho njengokufunda ukuzikala ukuze wazi ukuthi uthuthuka yini noma kukhona okuthile okudinga ukwenziwa ngcono ukuze uqhubeke futhi ufinyelele ngempumelelo lapho ufuna ukuya khona. Futhi, lapho uqala ukuthatha izinyathelo ezincane ungazinika nemivuzo emincane.
- Ungazibekeli imigomo uma ungakafinyeleli kweyokuqala. Ukuze uhambisane futhi uhambisane nezinhloso zakho, kufanele uhambe ngokuhlelekile. Okokuqala kufanele ufeze izinhloso zokuqala futhi kancane kancane uqale ukufaka ezintsha. Uma uzibekela imigomo eminingi kakhulu okunzima ukuyifinyelela, uzokhungatheka kuphela bese ucabanga ukuthi awunakho amandla lapho ukwazi kakhulu ukufeza konke ozibekele kona.
- Imigomo efinyelelekayo. Udinga futhi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izinhloso zakho ziyiqiniso nokuthi ungazifeza. Cabanga ngokuthi ngabe okufunayo yilokho okufunayo ngempela nokuthi ungakuthola. Kepha khumbula: "ukufuna kungamandla."
- Setha izinsuku zokugcina. Kubalulekile ukusetha umnqamulajuqu wesikhathi esifushane emigomweni emincane ukuze ukwazi ukusetha umgomo omkhulu, wesikhathi eside. Uma ungazibekeli isikhathi esinqunyiwe, kungenzeka ukuthi uzogcina uhlushwa 'i-kusasa syndrome' eyaziwayo bese uqala ukuhlehlisa izinto ezibalulekile. Kepha kuzofika usuku lapho uzophelelwa khona kusasa futhi uzozisola kuphela ngokungangenzi izinto ngendlela ehlukile lapho ubungazenza.
Khathazeka ngemigomo yakho
Kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi izinhloso zakho zibaluleke ngempela kuwe nokuthi ufuna ukuzifeza (ngempela). Kunezindlela eziningi zokuthola ukuthi ngabe izinhloso onazo engqondweni yizo ezibaluleke kuwe (noma cha). Yazi ukuthi ngabe leyo migomo ibalulekile kuwe noma uma ucabanga ukuthi ibalulekile ngoba umphakathi ukwenza ukholwe ukuthi uyiyo. Ungakhuthazwa yi- "kufanele uthole" futhi ucabange ukuthi umgomo uzoba ngokoqobo kuphela uma ufuna ngempela ukuwufinyelela. Cabanga ngalo mgomo, bese ubona ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi kuyinto "okufanele" uyenze noma into ofuna "ukuyenza". Ngale ndlela ungaqiniseka ukuthi uzizwa ubandakanyekile nokuthi ngeke uhlangabezane nanoma iyiphi inkinga ekhona ngoba ufuna ukuyifinyelela futhi uzothola indlela yokukufeza.
Bhala imigomo yakho
Ukubhala phansi izinhloso zakho kungakusiza kakhulu. Ngokuyibhala uzozwa sengathi uyazibophezela kubo futhi uzoxhumeka ngokomzwelo kunhloso yakho ngayinye, okwenza kube lula ukuthi kufezeke. Futhi, Uma uzibhala, ngeke uzikhohlwe futhi ungangeza izinhloso ezifinyeleleka neziphathekayo uma kudingeka.
Futhi, uma ukhombisa izinhloso zakho kothile omethembayo, ungazikhuthaza wenze izinto zihambe kangcono. Isithunzi sakho, ukwahlulela kwakho nokuzimisela kwakho kuzothikamezeka ngezinjongo zakho ezibhaliwe futhi ngokuzisho ngokuzwakalayo uzokwazi ukuzibona kalula, into engakusiza ngokungangabazeki ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuqala.