Kancane kancane, i-Emotional Intelligence ithola amandla emfundweni yezingane, ekhaya nasezikoleni. Izingane zidinga ukufundiswa ngokomzwelo okungenani kanye ngesonto phakathi nazo zonke izingane zazo. I-Emotional Intelligence iyadingeka ebudlelwaneni bomuntu siqu, empilweni yangakusasa kanye nakwikho konke, kukho konke.
Izingane zidinga ukucabanga ngemizwa, zidinga ukukhomba futhi ziveze ezikucabangayo nokuthi zizizwa kanjani nokuthi kungani zikwenza. Kepha ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele futhi baqonde imicabango nemizwa yabanye. Imiphumela lapho usebenza nezingane ku-Emotional Intelligence ngokungangabazeki iyamangaza.
Izingane, lapho zisebenza nabo, imizwa iyakwazi ukusho nokuzizwa imishwana efana nale:
- 'Ngizizwa kabi lapho ngisekilasini'
- 'Ngikhathazeka ngokungahambisani nabantu engifunda nabo'
- 'Ngiyathukuthela lapho ubaba engachithi sikhathi ekhaya nami'
- 'Angithandi uma abangane bami bengafuni ukudlala ngami yingakho ngikhala, yize lokho kubi kakhulu'
Ubuntwana kubalulekile ukusebenza ku-Emotional Intelligence
Kaningi, sithambekele ekucabangeni ukuthi izingane azikwazi ukucubungula noma ukuqonda ubunzima bomphefumulo bomhlaba. Abantu abadala abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi bavikelekile ngokungafundisi izingane izifundo ezingathandeki noma eziyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe. Kepha iqiniso ukuthi izingane zimunca yonke imizwa ebazungezile, noma ngabe ifihlekile kubo. Uma ungazi ukuthi ungayicubungula kanjani, kulapho izinkinga zingavela khona.
Izingane, kusukela lapho ziqala ukukhuluma, zingafunda ukukhomba nokuxhumana nemizwa. Lokhu kuzobenza bazethembe futhi bazokwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo ngamazwi nangokusobala. Iningi lezingane lizokwazi ukukhuluma ngemizwa yalo futhi lapho likhuluma, lizokwazi ukuzwelana nabanye. Uzwela luyadingeka ukuze umphakathi wethu uqhubekele phambili.
Ubuchopho bukhula ngokushesha
Ubuchopho bezingane bukhula ngesivinini esisheshayo, izingane zihlala zikuphaphamele okwenzekayo okuzungezile ukuze zifunde futhi zimunce lonke ulwazi oludingekayo ukuthuthukisa. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi izingane zifunde ukuxubha amazinyo njengoba kunjalo nokuqonda imfundo yezemizwa, lokhu kuzothuthukisa impilo yazo kakhulu.
Ngokufundisa izingane ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, indlela yokubona imizwa yazo, ukuqonda ukuthi zivelaphi futhi zifunde ukubhekana nazo. Imizwelo ibafundisa amakhono abaluleke kakhulu empumelelweni yabo empilweni. I-Intelligence Quotient (IQ) ayibalulekile empumelelweni empilweni njenge-EI. Labantu abanezinga eliphakeme le-EI bangenza izinqumo ezinempilo futhi babe nempilo engcono kubo bonke izici.
Ukubaluleka kokubona imizwa
Izingane kufanele zifunde ukubona nokwazi imizwa yazo. Lapho ingane ibona imizwa yayo neyabanye, iyoba nokukhiqiza okwengeziwe, ukusebenza kangcono ezifundweni, amakhono okuhola angcono, iyoba nokukhathazeka okuncane, ingabi namathuba amancane okuwela ekucindezelekeni futhi ekugcineni, uzozizwa kahle ngemvelo ebalwa kuyo.
Izinto ezi-5 ezibalulekile ze-Emotional Intelligence
- Ulwazi lwakho. Ukuze uzazi futhi unake imizwa, kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni amaphuzu athile:
- Ukuzilawula. Ukukwazi ukulawula nokulawula indlela esisabela ngayo ngokucabangela imizwa yethu.
- Isisusa sangaphakathi. Yiba nomuzwa obalulekile wokuphila nokuthi yini esikwazi ukukufeza.
- Uzwela Udinga ukuqonda imizwa yabanye.
- Amakhono omphakathi. Ukwazi ukwakha ukuxhumana komphakathi.
Abantu abadala bahamba phambili
Njengabazali, kungahle kungabi khona indlela enempilo noma ephelele yokubamba imizwa noma thina uqobo, futhi uma lokhu kwenzeka kuba nezinkinga zokufundisa izingane ukuphatha imizwa yazo. Kungenxa yakho konke lokhu, ukuthi uma ufuna ngempela ukubona ushintsho ezinganeni, kufanele uqale ngawe. Umhlaba wabantu abadala kumele wazi imizwa yawo ukuze ngale ndlela, izingane zilandele isibonelo.
Ngenhlanhla Izingxenye ezinhlanu zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo zingafundiswa futhi zifundwe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kunamathuluzi namasu amaningi angasiza thina nezingane zethu ukuqala ukubona nokuqonda imizwa yabo neyabanye. Le nqubo iqala ngokwaziwa, ngoba kuphela lapho sibona ukuthi sikuphi lapho sizokwazi ukuzishintsha futhi sithuthukise impilo yethu yengqondo.