Within the language of personal development we talk about goals, results, success, wishes and dreams. In other words, all the things that you want to do, achieve and create in your own world. What you want to achieve (the goal) is just as important as knowing why you want to achieve (the reason).
Needs and wants will be fulfilled
When you expose your 'why' (to achieve a certain thing), you will realize that your 'what' (the goal), can actually offer you feelings, emotions and an internal state that you really seek.
For example, the person who has the goal of losing weight in the belief that losing weight will bring him happiness, security, satisfaction, attention, popularity and the partner of his dreams. In this case, your "what" is weight loss and your "why" is happiness (etc.). Six months later, that person may have lost weight (she achieved her goal) but, as is often the case, she is not happier, she is not more confident, she is not more confident, she is not more satisfied, and according to her low mood, she has not yet found that desired partner .
After all, who wants to be with someone who is not happy? You reached your practical goal but still failed to meet your real needs. When this happens the person wants to lose more weight, and then a little more ... And it becomes a destructive and erroneous belief that if you become thin you can be happy. But it's not like that. Happiness is not achieved that way.
You will discover what really motivates you
What is important in the process of building a better life is not necessarily the goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us to achieve those goals (what we really want). The sooner you begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates you towards certain achievements, acquisitions or results (that is, begin to move towards greater awareness and self-awareness), the sooner you will make better decisions for life, you will establish your. goals and experience more satisfaction and less frustration.
We all know people who have accomplished what they set out to do, only to end up in the same place or worse. (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing was not really what they needed. What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we really need.
Your mood will be much healthier
Perhaps your goals are material things or beliefs that if you get 'something' you will be happier: a car, a bigger house, a better body, a more beautiful partner, more money, a career ... in short, things that will put us in a higher status and therefore we believe that we will be happier. But in reality and as you have been discovering from the beginning of this article, this is not the case at all. To be happy you must first accept yourself as you are, be grateful for what you have without yearning for what you don't have and above all, enjoy the journey that you have ahead of you to achieve other things, but without thinking so much about the objective and if more about the way to go to achieve it.
Although setting practical, material and financial goals is a smart thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works… Actually, your internal state of peace, satisfaction or joy is more important to find happiness.
What goals do you really need?
You need to look further away from superficial goals to discover what you really want or need. Put aside that collective mentality that believes that the richest are the happiest ... how many millionaires have ended their lives because they did not feel happy? If you are rich you do NOT have to be happier. Having more DOES NOT make you happier ... Being more 'handsome' won't make you happier if you don't accept yourself first.
The goal of all people with more or less money or beauty is the same: happiness. Happiness is only achieved when we enjoy being grateful for what we have TODAY. Enjoy every morning to be healthy, to connect with other people, to enjoy love and all its abstract variants.
You don't need to be the most powerful executive in your company. You don't need to have three careers… It's okay to aim for it, of course… But as long as doing so brings you inner peace and harmony. That achieving it is a personal challenge but that happiness does not go to you in it, if not that you find happiness in the field of achieving it.